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Climb The Corporate Ladder, Or Just Stare At It Dreamily

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Climb The Corporate Ladder, Or Just Stare At It Dreamily Ah yes, the corporate ladder. That mythical structure everyone talks about but few can clearly describe. It supposedly leads to success, money, respect, and maybe a corner office with a view. In reality, for most people, it looks more like a rusty fire escape bolted to a burning building. Still, we gather around it every year, gazing upward, wondering if we should climb… or just admire it from a safe distance. Let’s be honest. The ladder is not evenly spaced. Some people start halfway up because of connections, family names, or being “culture fit” in a meeting where no real work happens. Others are stuck on the ground floor, holding a CV like a begging bowl, told to “prove themselves” indefinitely. Same company, same hours, wildly different gravity. Climbing the ladder also assumes the ladder is stable. Spoiler: it’s not. Restructuring happens. Leadership changes. Suddenly your boss is gone, your role is “re-evaluated...
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The Empty Boat Mindset

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  The Empty Boat Mindset There’s a short Zen story that goes like this: A man is crossing a river when another boat crashes into his. He immediately gets angry—until he realizes the other boat is empty. No one to blame. No one to shout at. Suddenly, his anger disappears. That moment right there? That’s the Empty Boat Mindset. Most of our stress, resentment, and emotional exhaustion doesn’t come from what happens —it comes from the story we attach to it. We assume intent. We assume disrespect. We assume someone meant to hurt, ignore, or block us. And just like that, our peace sinks. The Empty Boat Mindset asks a simple but powerful question: “What if this wasn’t personal?” What if the rude comment wasn’t about you, but about their bad day? What if the silence wasn’t rejection, but overwhelm? What if the delay wasn’t disrespect, but chaos on the other side you can’t see? When you treat every collision like it came from an empty boat, something shifts. You stop bleeding ene...
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6 Things You Should Never Tell People (Even Close Friends)

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6 Things You Should Never Tell People (Even Close Friends) Honesty is overrated. There, I said it. We’re told to “be open,” “share more,” and “let people in,” as if vulnerability is a group discount deal. In reality, information is currency—and most people are terrible bankers. So here are six things you should absolutely keep to yourself, even from people who swear they “only want the best for you.” 1.  Your Next Big Move The moment you say it out loud, it becomes public property. Suddenly everyone has opinions, doubts, advice you didn’t ask for, and horror stories that start with, “Just being realistic…” Keep it quiet. Let success announce itself. Silence builds better momentum than motivation speeches. 2. How Much Money You Actually Have (or Don’t) Tell people you’re doing well, and they’ll start counting your pockets. Tell them you’re struggling, and they’ll start measuring your worth. Either way, your finances become a conversation you never agreed to have. Money i...
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Procrastination: The Secret Ingredient To My “Success”

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Procrastination: The Secret Ingredient To My “Success” Let’s get something straight from the start: procrastination didn’t ruin my life. I did. Procrastination was just the loyal sidekick—always there, never judging, gently whispering, “ You can do this tomorrow. Or next week. Or when the vibes are right. ” And honestly? It worked. I am living proof that you can delay everything and still end up somewhere… just not where you planned. Procrastination is often painted as the villain in productivity blogs written by people who wake up at 5 a.m. on purpose. But in real life, procrastination is more subtle. It wears comfortable clothes. It promises “one last scroll.” It convinces you that reorganising your desk is basically the same as doing the actual work. Progress-adjacent activity, I call it. I didn’t procrastinate because I was lazy. I procrastinated because starting felt heavy. Because finishing meant being judged. Because doing the thing meant finding out whether I was ac...
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How To Outsmart Your Alarm Clock And Your Boss

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 How To Outsmart Your Alarm Clock And Your Boss Every working adult knows the real enemy isn’t your boss—it’s the alarm clock. That shrill, soulless noise exists for one reason: to remind you that freedom is expensive. Outsmarting it doesn’t require discipline or motivation. It requires creativity, denial, and a flexible relationship with the truth. Step one: negotiate. When the alarm goes off, don’t jump up like a productivity influencer. Hit snooze and tell yourself you’re “mentally preparing.” This is not laziness. This is strategy. Five more minutes won’t save your career, but it might save your sanity. Step two: master the art of looking busy. Your boss doesn’t need efficiency; they need confidence. Walk fast. Carry something. Frown at your screen occasionally. If anyone asks, say you’re “following up” or “waiting for feedback.” These phrases mean nothing, but they sound expensive. Step three: understand that punctuality is a myth. Being early is suspicious. Being exactly on t...
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Motivation: The Fuel For My Coffee-Based Decisions

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 Motivation: The Fuel For My Coffee-Based Decisions Motivation, they say, is the fire that drives greatness. In my case, it’s a mug. Sometimes two. Occasionally three, depending on how bold life feels before noon. Every major decision I’ve made—career choices, life goals, text replies—has been carefully filtered through caffeine levels and whether the coffee shop was still open. Let’s be honest: motivation is overrated. People love to talk about “inner drive” and “passion,” but forget to mention that most of humanity runs on espresso and panic. I don’t wake up inspired. I wake up tired, confused, and mildly annoyed, then negotiate with myself over coffee like a hostage situation. Drink this, and we’ll survive the day. Productivity gurus claim motivation comes from discipline. Lies. Discipline comes from not wanting to disappoint the barista who already knows your order. Coffee doesn’t judge. Coffee understands. Coffee says, “You’re not lazy—you’re under-caffeinated.” Every motivati...
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Don’t Waste Your Time With Explanations—People Only Hear What They Want to Hear

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 At some point in life, you learn a frustrating truth: explanations don’t always lead to understanding. You can carefully choose your words, provide context, give examples, and speak calmly—yet some people will still hear only what fits their existing beliefs. Not because you explained poorly, but because listening requires willingness. Many people don’t listen to learn; they listen to confirm. They filter conversations through ego, emotion, pride, and prejudice. Facts become optional. Nuance disappears. Your message is twisted, simplified, or ignored entirely, then replaced with the version they were already prepared to accept. This is where explanations become exhausting. You repeat yourself, defend your intentions, and clarify meanings, hoping for that “aha” moment that never comes. Instead of connection, you get frustration. Instead of progress, you get circles. Knowing when to stop explaining is not arrogance—it’s wisdom. Silence can be a boundary. Walking away can be self-res...
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